Do you ever feel like you’re not good enough?
Not good enough to give your kids the life they deserve..
Not good enough to fulfill what your child is missing from having an absent parent in their life..
Not good enough to have the things you want to have in life..
Not good enough for that dream car of yours..
Not good enough for that dream house of yours..
Not good enough for a significant other who treats you right..
Not good enough for someone to love you for you..
Not good enough to make the money you need to be financially free..
Not good enough when you are around other moms or dads when you are volunteering at your child’s school..
Not good enough when you are sitting alone at your child’s soccer or basketball game..
Not good enough when you see people around you who are so successful..
Not good enough when you are laying in bed thinking about how you wish things were different..
Not good enough to get out of bed and have a productive day..
Not good enough when you are trying on those jeans everyone’s been wearing but you can’t even find a pair that fits..
Not good enough when you see successful influencer’s on social media who are just flourishing..
Not good enough to be sober every day for the rest of your life..
Not good enough because of your criminal record..
Not good enough because of the things you have done in the past..
Not good enough because you feel like you never look good in pictures..
Not good enough because you didn’t cook enough home cooked meals the last week..
Not good enough because you can’t be the weight that you want to be..
Just not good enough..
If you are still reading this then it must be because you deal with some of these thoughts as well.
Well please know, you are NOT alone.
I also, deal with these thoughts and it can lead to so many different feelings.
Feeling lost, hurt, anxious, nervous, embarrassed, ashamed, scared, and overall just sad.
And my heart hurts for you.. it hurts for us.
But one thing I do know, is that these thoughts, are exactly that, thoughts. Just something running through your head, these do not define you.
These thoughts do come and go, as you probably know. Sometimes are in our heads more times then others, and other times, not as much. It may depend on the day, or your mood, or what you have going on that day.
I find what helps for myself, is telling myself I am a good person and that I am worthy of good things. Whether I completely believe it or not, I try to remind myself that ultimately, everyone on this earth is equal.
I think every single person deals with these thoughts at some point in time, regardless their parenting status, career path, relationship status, what they do on their off time, what they look like, where they live, what they drive, who they are loved by, and so forth.
So reminding yourself every single time, that you are not alone. Often times, as you know, people are going through things that we have no idea about. It is not written on their forehead, and they may even have a smile on their face.
I think ultimately regardless of if we have these thoughts of not being good enough, what is most important, is who and what is on the inside, because no one can take that away from us.
Whether you are a good person who loves others and treats everyone with respect, someone who stays optimistic even when the storm is heart wrenching, someone who tries their best even though they are scared of the outcome every single time.
We cannot let these negative thoughts define us or consume us. Because they will. They will eat us up like the devil does and keep us tied down to depression, anger, frustration, and sadness.
And we are worth more than that.
I promise we are. You are. I am. We all are.
Try to see the light at the end of the tunnel, because just like after every storm or hurricane, there is always sunshine. You just have to fight to make it through the storm. So get up, show up, and believe in yourself, even if you have to fake it till you make it.
You have to keep looking forward and when you have these thoughts of not being good enough, reverse the thought, and speak positive thoughts instead of negative ones.
Instead of thinking you’re not good enough for that job you want, tell yourself you are and that you will get there one day as long as you keep moving forward and putting the work in.
Instead of thinking you’re not good enough to be loved for you, tell yourself that if a man doesn’t love you for you than he is not good enough for you. You deserve to be loved at your best and worst, and moreso exactly as you are. Not who they want you to be.
Set standards and believe in yourself and know exactly what you want and do not want in all areas of your life, and do not settle for any less.
Instead of thinking you’re not good enough to get out of bed and have a productive day. Tell yourself that you’re getting out of bed and having a good day. Take a shower, make your bed, drink some coffee, and get shit done.
Stay focused, be confident, heal, and trust the process.
It does get better, I promise you.
Til next time, from me to you.
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